I have about had it with a local hospital. My father has been in the ER several times with chronic diarreah, and I mean chronic. He is showing definate signs of dimentia...refers to me as mom....my daughter as Peggy (which is me). He is unable to keep his house clean, his yard clean, it ALL falls on me. I was telling the ER doctor all this and he seemed pissed off and that I was attacking him. I really conducted myself in a professional manner, but he was a total asshole. I think he was in a hurry to leave as it was his time to go home. I thought doctors were about the patient. Even though I keep telling him these doctors are quacks, he puts all his trust in them...and it pisses me off. This same hospital told my dear brother years ago that he has a little bit of cancer in his throat.....come to find out he was full of it....it was in his brain and liver too. Does dad take that fact into consideration, no he doesnt.

I think it is time for a nursing home....all Dad does is starve himself, fall or shits his pants. He cant or wont see that he isnt safe at home even though some of the nurses and I have both suggested it. According to the law I have to prove him UNFIT to be alone before I can get him into a safe environment. I was told by a lawyer that this would cost me $15,000 to $25,000 to prove him unfit to be alone. I dont have money falling from my butt....we live from check to check each week. I know there are kids who tuck their parents into homes for their money/property but....my dad has a 30 year old trailer on rented land....there is nothing for me to gain.  My hands are tied...without him going in voluntarily, its a moot point. His doctors are aware of his issues and still do nothing. I thought doctors could recommend a nursing home. I know they told my mom that her mother HAD to go into a home as she was too weak to live alone anymore. Hellooooooo my father isnt much better off than my grammy was.

Anyone had any experince with this sort of issue???

Dad didnt have cancer after all, he just has really bad arthritis. I was glad to get the good news. He did do something VERY strange the other night, though. He said he was fully dressed and was setting at the dinner table reading mail. The next time he is naked and standing in front of his bureau with a handful of pills. He does NOT know how he got there or remember doing any of it. I am pretty spooked out......do you think this is alzhimers (spelling)????