Tuesday, 10 March 2009
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Quack Quack.....Doctors
I have about had it with a local hospital. My father has been in the ER several times with chronic diarreah, and I mean chronic. He is showing definate signs of dimentia...refers to me as mom....my daughter as Peggy (which is me). He is unable to keep his house clean, his yard clean, it ALL falls on me. I was telling the ER doctor all this and he seemed pissed off and that I was attacking him. I really conducted myself in a professional manner, but he was a total asshole. I think he was in a hurry to leave as it was his time to go home. I thought doctors were about the patient. Even though I keep telling him these doctors are quacks, he puts all his trust in them...and it pisses me off. This same hospital told my dear brother years ago that he has a little bit of cancer in his throat.....come to find out he was full of it....it was in his brain and liver too. Does dad take that fact into consideration, no he doesnt.
I think it is time for a nursing home....all Dad does is starve himself, fall or shits his pants. He cant or wont see that he isnt safe at home even though some of the nurses and I have both suggested it. According to the law I have to prove him UNFIT to be alone before I can get him into a safe environment. I was told by a lawyer that this would cost me $15,000 to $25,000 to prove him unfit to be alone. I dont have money falling from my butt....we live from check to check each week. I know there are kids who tuck their parents into homes for their money/property but....my dad has a 30 year old trailer on rented land....there is nothing for me to gain. My hands are tied...without him going in voluntarily, its a moot point. His doctors are aware of his issues and still do nothing. I thought doctors could recommend a nursing home. I know they told my mom that her mother HAD to go into a home as she was too weak to live alone anymore. Hellooooooo my father isnt much better off than my grammy was.
Anyone had any experince with this sort of issue???
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Comments (4)
Doctors seem to know nothing anymore. I didnt know you had to go through that much to prove someon unfit to live by themselves to get put in a nursing home. I thought you could just put them in there. It seems the condition he is in it wouldnt take that much to prove but who knows the way these places run now.
@mountaingirl - Thats the whole thing, there is nobody else left, everyone has died. Also dad tends to alienate people so he has no friends anymore. He used to have a lot of friends, but with his dimentia he has become quite strange and says things he shouldnt.
@dontkno - I know it. They seem way more concerned with his RIGHTS than his safety...its totally messed up. :(